Kindness costs nothing

After hosting the 'living from your heartspace' workshop yesterday, I thought i'd share an example that I think at sometime we have all experienced.

As an intuitive healer and workshop facilitator, I think folk have an impression that I can rise above any unreasonable and unexpected behaviour, but the purpose of my work is not to become enlightened, but to be a better human. My human still suffers pain from peoples words and disregard for honesty and integrity. Although, once the anger and tears have past, I allow myself to sit in their seat, to see what they are seeing. It is a great reflection of how I am "showing up" in the world. Sometimes we can spot the unwanted behaviour we are presenting by the way the world around us responds and this is when we can move from body to spirit and soul, and show gratitude for the lesson and step into the healing and growth we need to truly flourish into an even more beautiful version of self.

Other times, we feel so strongly that we are showing up authentically and honestly, but still feel the pain from the unexpected behaviour. This is not your pain. This pain is their grief, their childhood trauma, their fear, their seek for approval and it often presents as control. When we live a life, checking in with ourselves, doing our healing, and living a life of heartfelt fulfilment and joy of the little everyday miracles, we leave ourselves open to others who want to crush our free spirit. Our layers of openness, and vigour for life unnerves them. We are 'being the example' of what they want to become, but they are too scared to step into the uncomfortable growth and healing, so it is easier for them to reflect their pain onto us.

Don't beat yourself up for spending time being upset for the way you have been treated, you are kind. You are compassionate, and you don't deserve this treatment, but when you look closer - beyond the words (intuitive healer or not) you will see their pain. You will become compassionate towards their voids, fears and grief they present, even if they cannot see it themselves. Then suddenly their opinion becomes insignificant as you surge forward in your life of truth, authenticity, kindness, compassion, fulfilment and growth that the people around you, and love you see in you every day.

It is very easy to focus on the pain and push yourself into the shadows when you are triggered, but you have too much to offer to the world to stay their too long. So, stay there long enough to let the emotions move through you and regain your strength, but the world needs your integrity, kindness and honesty. Don't let their pain turn off your light, because once you've allowed the sadness and anger of their actions subside, your light will shine so bright, it puts their pain uncomfortably in the spotlight. I see you. Your pain, your emptiness, your vulnerability and I send you love and compassion as I grow from the gift of the lesson and observation you gave me and pass you by.